Julian Lehnhardt

Making the Inner Critic Your Advisor: Self-Love in Family Chaos That Actually Holds

Julian — Wed, 08 Apr 2026 20:32:14 +0000

You want to respond with patience. And then there's this broken glass on the kitchen floor.

Juice everywhere. One child screams, the other freezes. Before you can think, you've raised your voice.

The real pain often comes after: that inner voice that judges immediately, makes you small, stamps you as a "failure." This is exactly where it's decided whether you stay stable in everyday life or break inside.

Self-love doesn't begin in quiet moments. It begins in chaos.

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Do We Need to Constantly Stimulate Our Children? What Parents Really Need to Know

Julian — Thu, 02 Apr 2026 08:39:07 +0000

Why free play and idle moments matter so much for child development

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School Is Not a Training Camp: Why Many Children Function at School and Collapse Afterwards

Julian — Sun, 15 Feb 2026 10:18:06 +0000

“In school, the child is doing great.”

A sentence often meant as a compliment. It describes a child who meets expectations: calm, focused, compliant, ready to perform. What it does not describe is the cost of this adaptation. Increasingly, a pattern is emerging that is rarely discussed in educational contexts: children who appear stable in school collapse outside that framework, at home, in the afternoon, or on weekends.

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Aphantasia – When the Mind’s Eye Falls Silent

Julian — Tue, 13 Jan 2026 12:46:00 +0000

Imagine being unable to create images in your mind – no faces, no places, no visual memories. For people with aphantasia, this is everyday life. How does this affect learning processes, creative tasks, or personal relationships? What can you do to support those affected – and could it be that your child is affected as well?

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Language Shapes Reality

Julian — Tue, 13 Jan 2026 12:30:17 +0000

How we talk about children shapes how they see themselves. Why “not wrong” still sounds wrong – and what a language can look like that strengthens children instead of judging them.

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Self-love begins with us and grows with our children

Julian — Sun, 21 Sep 2025 19:07:50 +0000

Children don’t learn self-love from books.
They learn it from us.
A thought to reflect on – and a practical exercise for families – in the new edition of my newsletter “Der Begleiter.”

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When adults choose to serve, not to rule – what children truly need

Julian — Sat, 06 Sep 2025 11:40:13 +0000

Children need adults. Not as judges, not as project managers. But as people who serve them. To serve means creating spaces, setting boundaries as railings rather than walls, and taking responsibility. Not every wish, not perfection – but balance and a shared burden.

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When adults choose to serve, not to rule – what children truly need

Julian — Sat, 06 Sep 2025 11:33:27 +0000

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